I finally get it! I wrote some days ago about unconditional love! In some way this a sort of follow on? The point is as a full blooded male it took a long time, but I now finally do get it!  I professed love and only spoke from my perspective!You see my view is a little different to the conventional now and it takes time to digest. We live in a world of filters and boxes and to free yourself from it you have to step back sometimes. So step back with me for some perspective!

The whole article showed my commitment to unconditional Love! In a way made me seem like this nice guy? Maybe I am now but how did we get there? What we have to do now is plot my journey to that Epiphany!

I like the rest bought into what most perceives as Love. Life had to give me a good old smack to catch a wake up, and change my life. Short version is this: We've been married 6 years then. Had three kids. At one point made buckets full of money! I was never home. Playing Golf, working hard, getting awards! I was untouchable, and incorrigible! I took no advice, gave my opinion on everything. Just like all powerful men do! It took me losing all of the material to realize that it holds no value at all! It wasn't even my fault? I got taken to the cleaners, lost about a million in 3 months. Had no income for nine months and we went down in flames! Everything I held dear was material, and it was all gone! I became depressed, let myself go ( weighed 138 kg's at one point), and basically gave up. I took even less interest in the kids, felt sorry for myself and blamed everybody for my predicament! My wife held us all together on her own. You see women have a toughness we as men just don't! It's emotional, mental and spiritual! I spoke about Black and White before and what she did was nowhere near that simple. She should have left! I was not providing anything but just dragging them down with me! She stood firm, getting money for food while I was feeling sorry for myself! She just got on with the job caring for everybody, including me. She was only 27 at the time, sexy as hell. She did not need me! Yet she loved me. No accusations, no blaming, no condition!

It took me some time to understand what she did. And appreciate that we survived as a family because of her fierce loyalty, and total commitment. She dragged me up without saying a word! Men are not capable of this, shit we hardly understand this? We have since recovered thanks to the heart of a woman. A very special woman!

This brings me to another thing I finally get, well sort of ? In the movie Titanic the old Rose says the following:

" a woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets. But now you know there was a man named Jack Dawson and that he saved me... in every way that a person can be saved."

I will tell you this us, guys would not even remember this line, yet its the epitome of being a woman! She loved this guy all her life and could be a good and loving wife to her husband years later too. She shunned living a rich life for living one of Love and contentment. WE want to be benefactors of this amazing quality women have, but we tend to ruin it by forcing them into slavery of sorts, Men try make women possessions? The problem is you will never own a girls heart lest she gives to you! I firmly believe this is why so many cultures/religions try and control women by taking away their rights and forcing them to submit to man! They are indeed a strange mysterious wonder? But I will tell you what I found ?She will gladly submit if you can love her as she understands love, otherwise you're pretty much screwed!

All honor's wounds are self-inflicted. -Andrew Carnegie

There are so many tales of woman's resolve in difficult times, illness, adversity. During the Boer war they represented the Boer resolve through horrific times. They were also the most brutal towards traitors.They quietly went back and helped rebuild a country without so much as a whimper.The behind every man line is well known. What a privilege to have such a partner, just so we ruin it with logic?  How many cases do you know of men forgiving there wife's anything? We as men value our personal "honor" above all ! A Councillor friend of mine has not seen it his entire career? The ones that tried made the woman's life such hell that it eventually also failed. Yet men receive this kind of second chance every day! Ever notice how a mother loves her child? I would rather spank a Lion than scratch there! You could be included in this unconditional loyalty, just stop being an ass !

Man, we want them to explain their hearts when they don't even know ? They are creatures of instinct, far deeper than we can ever be. Best we just embrace it and go along for the ride. I suggest you hold on tight. If she allows you in it will be the ride of your life! But rewarding in a way I cannot describe! I get it now. Best to own her heart if possible and let go of the physical restrictions we impose on this journey.

It is not what we take up, but what we give up, that makes us rich. -Henry Ward Beecher

True love needs to be set free, else you will never know it? They get it, time we do too!You can only love, be patient and have faith! But love is as Love does, and in the end, it will conquer even our biggest fears and insecurities. I believe that insecurity keeps us from just giving all! Men are the most insecure creatures on earth if you look past the bravado!Good luck. Take care, Love fiercely and live with no regrets!