It's quite a bind not being a "real" writer! Still finding my feet to get a point across at one go. But maybe in time? Luckily I am a patient person! Or maybe the subject is just too big for one article? Anyhow!

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” 
― Søren Kierkegaard 

Back to Unconditional living! I have over the last few days been the benefactor of quite a bit of pity. Now I do appreciate the sentiment, but alas it is really wasted on me! It also shows I am not getting my point across yet? Just to clear something up! You can only do this if you are really strong, confident, emotionally mature and truly secure in yourself! Egotism, insecurity and selfishness makes living this way truly impossible. I will venture to say egotistical, selfish people cannot even comprehend it, let alone live it? Pity is not the right emotion for this matter! But I appreciate the "love"shown! It is a selfless act and selfless acts are truly liberating!Remember too that I learned this from receiving unconditional love. I do know both sided of this coin? Really wanted to leave you with the romanticized version, but I'll have to explain further.

“If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.” 
― Amy Tan 

If you love unconditionally, it is a beautiful thing. However it also removes a whole lot of potential hurt and disappointment, from the start. It is wonderful protection against the fallibility of our human nature. You see, I know how I am going to re-act and act, in any situation that comes up. I am going to love and forgive with no condition! There is no insecurity, no surprise! I will focus on the problem and help the person. Now helping people have a wonderful therapeutic effect on me! Plus I do not focus on me but away from me and thus it will have no major effect on me. Lets say a "wrong" is done that should affect me, It is not my "wrong", thus not my problem. I do not control the "wrong", but I control how it will affect me! If it causes failure, it's also not my failure? I am programming for success not failure! Even the most shallow of people, will eventually be so guilt ridden, that they will leave on their own? So abusing this wonderful philosophy is not all that easy. Plus remember if you are living it, you have none of the guilt but all of the forgiveness.

“It's the heart afraid of breaking that never learns to dance.” 
― Xiaolu Gu

Please, I am not saying that, that should be your reason. It's just some of the perks. But being able to love that way is unbelievably rewarding and fulfilling. It's peaceful strength that is hard to describe? It's a Love thing first and foremost. If it's not, it will fail. And it's a fantastic feeling to live a life like this!

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu

There are many quotes that confirm the viability of such a life. Imagine if we reciprocate this to each other? For one we would not intentionally want to hurt each other! So any hurt would be justified in a strange sort of way. Personally, infidelity would hurt much less, than say someone backstabbing me. Infidelity is not as personal as someone embarrassing you! Many times infidelity is about insecurity and other factors,not necessarily affecting you or what you've done or not done? Possibly it has to do with things you can maybe not control?Where deliberately hurting someone is far more an act of betrayal to me personally. I repeat! I do not condone destructive behavior but understand that life is not as simple as we try make it? This is why I believe Love is there? To protect and manage our fallibility.

“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow - this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” 
― Elizabeth Gilbert 

And it is a truly beautiful thing! I leave you with this:

 “I never made one of my discoveries through the process of rational thinking”

― Albert Einstein